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CURSES ARE REVERSED AND FAMILIES 'SEALED' WHEN WITH A SPECIAL BLESSING ON EACH OTHER


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A verbal curse can be reversed by a blessing. So can a generational one. Also, one caused by sin.
Did you ever realize how many people knowingly or unknowingly may have sent burdens and blockages upon you and your family?
You also curse yourself -- when you think negatively about yourself. (I can't do that. I'll never make it. I'll never amount to anything.)
Bless those who have criticized you. Bless those who send you hate. Bless those who "compete" with you. Don't come under the power of a curse.
Also, bless yourself:
I can do that. I will make it. I will fulfill my destiny.
While only priests grant special blessings (for example, at the end of Mass, and when they bless sacramentals), everyone is allowed -- and called -- to bless each other on a regular basis.
We bless meals before we eat. We bless each other when we sneeze. We say "God bless you" as a matter of daily talk (or should). We ask for blessings in the confessional.
What about blessings of deliverance?
This time of year is a terrific time to bless our families. If we do this effectively, our dear ones then pass these blessings on to their children, and their children to their offspring, down the generations.
In Scripture, there was special power attached to a father's blessing. Blessings were an integral part of God's relationship with Abraham (Genesis 12:1, 2, 3). And look at his descendants, such as Isaac: When he blessed his son Jacob (Genesis 27:30) it was a blessing that caused livestock to thrive under his care and brought him success for many years in all aspects of life; it was a blessing that lasted. There is what they call the "Aaronic blessing." This comes from Numbers 6:23-27 -- and it has special power. Listen closely. It came when the Lord spoke to Moses and said, "Speak to Aaron and to his sons, saying, 'Thus you shall bless the sons of Israel. You shall say to them:
"'The Lord bless you, and keep you; the Lord make His Face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up His countenance to you.'"
Added God: "So shall they invoke My Name on the sons of Israel, and I then will bless them."
Print that. Write it down. Pass it on. Give the special Old Testament blessing to your spouse and children: "The Lord bless you, and keep you; the Lord make His Face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up His countenance to you." Husbands, use it regularly on your wives; wives, use it on your husbands; parents, use it on your children (and children, on your parents!) It seals against evil. Release the blessing of God as did the anointed ones of Israel. We can add: say it in the Name of the Infant Jesus.
Use it also to bless those who "curse" you! Many report miracles with it. You heard that right: on your rivals and enemies. Through such prayer, a curse is turned into a blessing.
One preacher who uses it described a woman from India whose mother, who wanted a son, had cursed her during childhood and naturally, it brought a dark mood. The girl resented her mom and as a result, developed a strange large, V-shaped "birthmark" on her forehead. She was told to send her mother her blessing -- instead of resenting her -- and when she did, the mark faded and even disappeared. (When the resentment returned, so did the birthmark -- until she forgave and blessed again!)
A boy in high school had trouble with his teachers. He was doing very poorly. They kept telling him he would never amount to anything. This operated as a curse. But one day he learned the Christian lesson about blessing those who curse you and went to see the teachers to tell each one he wished them the best and prayed that they rise above all teachers. He was soon a star student. Their negativity had been turned into blessings.
There are many ways of declaring a blessing.
In prayer -- out loud -- declare your home a zone of health.
Declare it a "cancer-free zone."
Declare it a zone of love.
Sound the shofar.
Bring forth the Light (and blessing) of the Infant!
"The Lord bless you, and keep you; the Lord make His Face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up His countenance to you."
This is healing. There are special blessings. Gather together those you love and light a holy candle (or use Holy Water) and as we head into the uncertainties of a new year pray a blessing upon everyone (yes, even enemies).
We have a word of knowledge here from Christmas night:
"I bless those who bless others; I anoint those who use their anointing to help others. I send grace through those who let My Graces flow through them, as does the Blessed Mother, in health and Heaven."
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[Numbers 24:6:
“Like valleys that stretch out, 

Like gardens beside the river, 

Like aloes planted by the LORD, 

Like cedars beside the waters. 

Water will flow from his buckets, 

And his seed will be by many waters"]

Jesus Death

Jesus Death - 60 seconds to understand-contemplate christ suffering when praying the rosary
 
 
60 seconds with God....        
 
 
For
the next 60 seconds, set aside whatever
you're doing and take this opportunity to draw closer to our Lord and to contemplate His death !
 
 
 
 
THE (SCIENTIFIC) DEATH OF JESUS
 
  
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At the age of 33, Jesus was condemned to the death penalty.
 
 
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At the time crucifixion was the "worst" death. Only the worst
criminals condemned to be crucified. Yet it was even  more dreadful for Jesus, unlike other criminals condemned to death by  crucifixion Jesus was to be nailed to the cross by His hands and feet.
 
 
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Each nail was 6 to 8 inches long.
 
 
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The nails
were driven into His wrist.  Not
into His palms as is commonly
portrayed. There's a tendon in the wrist that
extends to the shoulder.  The Roman guards knew
that when the nails were being hammered into the
wrist that tendon would tear and
break, forcing Jesus to use His back
muscles to support himself so that He could
breathe. 
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Both of His feet
were nailed together.  Thus He was forced to
support Himself on the single nail that
impaled His feet to the cross.  Jesus could
not support himself with His legs because of the pain
so He was forced to alternate between arching His
back then using his legs just to continue to
breath.  Imagine the struggle, the pain, the
suffering, the courage. 
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Jesus endured this
reality for over 3 hours.
 
 
  Yes,
over 3 hours! Can you imagine this kind of
suffering?  A few minutes before He died,
Jesus stopped bleeding. He was simply pouring water
from his wounds.
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From common images
we see wounds to His hands and feet and even the spear wound
to His side.  But do we realize His wounds
were actually made in his body.  A hammer
driving large nails through the wrist, the feet overlapped
and an even large nail hammered through the arches, then a
Roman guard piercing His side with a spear.   But
before the nails and the spear Jesus was whipped and
beaten..  The whipping was so severe that it tore the
flesh from His body..  The beating so horrific that His
face was torn and his beard ripped from His face.  The
crown of thorns cut deeply into His scalp..  Most men
would not have survived this torture. 

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He had no more blood
to bleed out, only water poured from His
wounds.
 The
human adult body contains about 3.5 liters
(just less than a gallon) of blood.

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Jesus poured all 3.5
liters of his blood; He had three nails hammered into His
members; a crown of  thorns on His head and, beyond
that, a Roman soldier who stabbed a spear into His
chest.
 
 
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All these without
mentioning the humiliation He passed after carrying His own
cross for almost 2 kilometers, while the crowd spat in his
face and threw stones (the cross was almost 30 kg of weight,
only for its higher part, where His hands were
nailed).
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Jesus had
to endure this experience, so that you can have free
access to God.
 
 
So that your sins
could be "washed" away. All of them, with no exception!
Don't ignore this situation.
JESUS
CHRIST DIED FOR YOU!
 
 
For you, who now
read this e-mail. Do not believe that He only died for
others (those who go to church or for pastors, bishops,
etc).
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He died for you! It
is easy to pass jokes or foolish photos  by e-mail, but
when it comes to God, sometimes you feel ashamed to forward
to others because you are worried of what they may think
about you.
 
 
  Accept
the reality, the truth that JESUS IS THE ONLY SALVATION FOR
THE WORLD.
God
has plans for you, show all your friends what He experienced
to save you. Now think about this! May God bless your
life!
60 seconds with God...  
 
 
For the next 60
seconds, set aside what you're doing and take
this opportunity! Let's see if Satan can stop
this.

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All you have to do
is:
 
 
1.   Simply
pray for the person who sent this message to
you:
 
 
2.
Then, send this
message onto others...
 
 
3.
People will
pray for you and you will make that many people pray to God
for other people.
 
 
4.
Take a
moment to appreciate the power of God in your life, for
doing what pleases Him.
 
 
If you are not
ashamed to do this, please, follow Jesus' instructions.
He said (Matthew 10:32 & 33): "Everyone therefore
who acknowledges me before others, I also will acknowledge
before My Father in heaven; but whosoever denies Me
before others,  I also will deny before My
Father in heaven".
 
 
If you believe,
send this message... But send it only if you believe
in Christ Jesus is your Lord and Savior.
 
 
Yes, I love God. He
is my source of life and my Savior. He keeps me alive day
and night.
 
 
Without Him, I am
nothing, but with Him "I can do all things through Him
who strengthens me". Philippians 4:13.
 
 
This is the simple
proof. If you love God and you are a believer and trust
in salvation through Christ Jesus, send this to all those
you love.

THE 'ROBE' YOU WEAR SHOULD BE THE HAPPIEST YOU AS WELL AS THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF



Seek the "robe of Heaven." What's the robe of heaven? That means: the deepest,cleanest, purest you. It's where there is the imprint of destiny.
It's the one God created you to be, the "best version of yourself." Are you the best version of your self? Have you kept true to yourself? It's the you He will recognize.
We have been discussing this. Let's continue that discussion. Do you know the deepest part of yourself or have you allowed life to rip it or sully it or silt it over?
We really do "wear" in eternity what is deep within us! When your real self is obscured, it could mean purgatory (the laundromat for that "robe"). Listen to what a woman named Angie Fenimore who died and saw deepest purgatory alleged: "Drifting onto the plane, the newly deceased were dressed in white robes, but their robes were dingy," she wrote (in Beyond the Darkness). "Like silent sleepwalkers, these spellbound souls descended into the darkness, arms to their sides, their expressionless eyes locked in empty gazes. Everyone I saw was wearing dirty white robes. Some people's were heavily soiled, while others' just appeared dingy with a few stains."
Or listen to this from a revelation called The Secrets of Purgatory (more about this revelation in coming days):
"The souls in purgatory are enveloped, as it were, in a thick shroud into which they have wound themselves while living on this earth," says the incredible little booklet. "It is the garment of their own egoism. Their main care in this life was themselves, just as the world's highest ideal is self-glorification and honor. It is this which fashions that coarse garment through which the Light of God can hardly penetrate."
Who wants to enter eternity dressed like that?
In eternity, there are no secrets. We fool no one. We wear who we (really) are. We want that to be pristine. As Our Blessed Mother said at Kibeho in Rwanda, "A good heart surpasses all, there are no riches that are beyond a clean heart." At apparitions, her attire is depicted as indescribable whiteness. Clean means nothing whatsoever dark! In eternity, we are "inside out."
There was the you as a youngster: encountering your first temptations. How did you do? Are there still things you must purge? Do memories haunt or entice? Are there stains you should bleach away? Are there hurts you need to purge -- open wounds that festered? There was the you as a teenager -- more temptations, many more, still. And in that critical period of your twenties. What taints did you pick up then? Is there soot and grease? There is the "you" who became a spouse, a parent, a grandparent, the you who chose a certain career.
How many masks have you worn? What were your intentions? Did anything "crust" around you? Is there hardness (a shell)? Do you still harbor -- wear-- any bitterness (unforgiveness)?
Sainte PhilomèneWhen we are in a shell blessings bounce off of us. So does love. The real you is the you at your most comfortable, your most natural, your purest, your happiest; the real you gives and thrives on love. This is the choice you have. We have stated this previously. It bears repeating. It is the "best version of yourself"! Have you let other people "put things" on you? (If so, shake them off!)
The best you is not the complainer. It's not the one who sees the worst in others. It's not the lackadaisical you. It's not the one who lives by lust. Stains indeed! It's not the undisciplined stage. It's not a gossip. Let's focus on that for a moment.
"In over two decades of ministry, I’ve encountered scores of Christians who don’t seem to think gossip is wrong -- who are obsessed as busybodies, gossips, and bad-mouthers, and have caused irreparable damage to the Body of Christ," wrote one evangelist.
"I could fill books with the stories of anguish and grief inflicted to hapless victims. 'The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts' (Proverbs 26:22). Mean, vicious accusations and rumors have ripped out the heart and soul of many fellow Christians and leaders, draining them of their love, enthusiasm, and their desire to live for God. It has split churches, created strife, and promoted division and turmoil. 'Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down' (Proverbs 26:22).
"Gossip exists whenever persons 'talk about others' in less than a favorable way. The root of gossip is negativity, judgmentalism, slander, etcetera. Avoid associating with people who gossip. 'A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much' (Proverbs 20:19). You probably remember the old saying: 'If you can’t say something good about others, don’t say anything at all.' Wise advice if you wish to avoid sin. Gossip often masquerades as 'concern' for others."
We also mentioned lack of discipline.
This too can cause our robe to be dingy, dark.
It is a lack of discipline that allows us to say or do what we should not, or fail to do what we should -- such as keep our surroundings tidy.
Too often inner turmoil is reflected by the hidden corners in our homes, where dirt collects. What is within us is without us. The dust builds and builds and builds until it obscures who we really are if we don't constantly wipe it away.
The more we pray, the more discipline we have -- and this is the key to upkeep, to the best version of you.
When there is a lack of prayer, dust gathers quickly.
Prayer is discipline and translates into the discipline we have over the flesh and even over our personal upkeep.
Spirits seem to gather around dirt and confusion and manifest in what is scattered -- or piled -- around us. Our surroundings reflect our passions and shortcomings and our obsessions. Those who have become obsessed with objects become -- at an extreme -- the hoarders we see on television.
Meanwhile a person obsessed with drugs or alcohol can become the homeless street person who has no energy or discipline for upkeep. (Is this why it says that "cleanliness is next to Godliness"?)
On the upside: our surroundings can reflect goodness and togetherness and joy. That's your best version of you for sure! It's wearing your blessings well.
Love transcends all sorrow.
The best version of us sees the best in others.
Gauge the real you by that standard.
The truth of love is happiness.
Your uniqueness is deep down where He has placed that imprint of destiny.
Be in touch with the imprint. When we obscure our real selves, the Lord may say He doesn't know us (Luke 13).
Start by doing. When we are doing nothing we are going nowhere. Inertia takes over. Do. Start a motion. Move. Build momentum. Make that first start. It's never too late. You are never too sullied -- not while you are still alive and able to read this!
Lust? That's a stain. Half-truths? Blotches on your robe. Constant complaining? Negativity? Discontent? A dark hue. Hatred? Blackness.
Be careful what you let into your eyes and ears. It will express itself outwardly. As another preacher says, "Have you ever heard the saying, 'You are what you eat?' The same principle is true in our spiritual lives. Our ears and eyes are the gates to our soul. What we watch, what we listen to, and who we associate with are constantly feeding and influencing our inner man, which in turn, influences our actions and destiny.

"David said in Psalm 101:3, 'I will set before me no vile thing.' Today more than ever, we have opportunities to feed our minds with the wrong thing. Everywhere we turn, there is information trying to influence us. But Ephesians 4:27 says, 'Do not give the enemy a foothold.' A door of opportunity is opened when we allow negative influences in our lives. What seems as harmless entertainment, a compromising TV show, or a negative song choice eventually influences your thought life. Thoughts lead to actions and actions determine your destiny. Spend time building yourself up, not wasting your time with activities that can tear you down. You are a temple of the Most High God -- called, appointed and anointed to do great things. Do your best to keep your temple pure and be selective with what you feed your spirit. As you do your part, God will take you places that you have never imagined. You will reach your full potential and become everything God has created you to be."
Psalm 119:37 says, "Keep me from paying attention to worthless things."
Cleanse, cleanse, cleanse. Become unworldly. Our example is Immaculate Mary. Cleanse this Christmas season.
Purity (sought with prayer from the heart) is the best you and will lead to a brilliant white robe that will radiate the love of God like a texture of spun glass and spun cotton forever.

Beware festering wounds

Illness lies in wounded memory and the necessity of love
The root of illness many times lies in the need for love or in the lack of receiving it.  A wound memory, a word spoken in spite, can lie dormant for many years, but festers and grows.  It keeps growing by adding to it other words, other hurtful moments, and then it begins to take on a life of its own.
Due to these spoken words, you might live your life believing in them as being true about yourself. You might be living your life trying to disprove the truthfulness of these words, always finding ways to prove them false, i.e., you’re lazy, you never amount to anything, etc.  In believing or trying to reject those words, you are actually living your life by them. You accepted what a person of authority in your life stated as true and never really examine the truthfulness of it.
You need to confront the words spoken over you and either claim them or reject them.  If these words are contrary to God’s word, then you should rejected them.
Cleanse your mind by offering those words to God.
Christ will nail them on the Cross.  Ask for Christ healing light to cover each moment, and each ill word that has been spoken over you.
Close your eyes and pray:
I reject the lie that I am lazy in Jesus Name.
I reject the lie that I will never amount to anything in Jesus Name.
In Jesus Name I cover each moment with Christ cleansing healing light.
And in Jesus Name I cleanse the effect these words have caused on my life.  The effect they have caused in my life is now broken.
I forgive  (person(s) who spoke these words and I ask Jesus Christ to pour His healing light on them and heal them.  If I have hurt anyone due to these words spoken over me, I ask you Jesus for forgiveness.
If a generational family pattern exist, I ask that the effect of any generational words be removed from my life in Jesus Name.
Lord you have called me by name and have fashioned me in my mother’s womb.

Engaged Encounter: Ready for a lifetime?

Engaged Encounter: Ready for a lifetime?

Engaged Encounter: Ready for a lifetime?

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John and Louise Vos, members of St. James Parish, Menomonee Falls, have devoted much of their married life to helping other couples strengthen their marriages. The couple, who will celebrate 44 years of marriage later this year, will lead a Catholic Engaged Encounter commuter weekend, Aug. 6-8 at St. James in August. (Catholic Herald photo by Juan C. Medina)
Before wedding bells ring, brides and grooms spend hours planning invitations, attire, a reception dinner, photography and decorations for the biggest day of their life. While couples might approach the altar ready for a perfect wedding day, are they ready for a lifetime of marriage commitment? For 34 years, John and Louise Vos, members of St. James Parish, Menomonee Falls, have devoted their married life’s ministry to preparing couples for marriage, especially through National Catholic Engaged Encounter, whose motto is “A Wedding is a Day. A Marriage is a Lifetime.”
That motto will be the theme of the first Catholic Engaged Encounter commuter weekend in the Archdiocese of Milwaukee this Aug. 6-8, at St. James Parish. The commuter weekend is for all engaged couples, to help them discover authentic love in a Christ-centered relationship.
“We believe that when you want a career, you attend college; when you want a car, you take instruction behind the wheel. But what is there for marriage?” asked Louise.
John and Louise, who will celebrate their 44th wedding anniversary in October, have worked with engaged couples for most of their married life in Wisconsin and California. They are passionate witnesses about Engaged Encounter because of their gratefulness for what it’s done in their marriage.
Communication problems surfaced
John and Louise met in December of 1964 on a blind date arranged by John’s roommate at Marquette University and Louise’s friend from St. Mary’s School of Nursing, Milwaukee. They attended a house party, where John recalled, “We felt a real connection” and Louise remembered “how comfortable we felt and how much fun it was.”
They were engaged in April 1965 and married Oct. 29, 1966, at St. Mary Church in Burlington. They were told that the likelihood of conception was impossible, so they adopted a child.
Recalling the first years of their marriage, Louise said, “We were noticing a lot of communication problems. We were discussing the same things over and over again without resolution. We weren’t focusing on each other. I was not focusing on our marriage.”
In January 1974, they attended a Marriage Encounter weekend at Holy Hill, Hubertus. From John’s perspective, “We went because we knew we needed a ‘shot in the arm’ for our marriage.”
The retreat was cut short though, when on Saturday night they received a call that Louise’s dad had suffered a heart attack and died.
“We never finished,” said John.
The death of Louise’s father and her mother’s grief added strain on their marriage. Tensions increased. Louise had also become pregnant.
The Holy Spirit’s answer
In 1976, Louise received a call from a hometown friend and fellow nursing student who explained that her brother was involved in a Day for the Engaged. Louise’s friend knew they had never finished the Marriage Encounter weekend and wondered if they would like to be in this ministry as a couple. Louise sees that invitation as a work of the Holy Spirit.
The Day for the Engaged was led by two married couples and Fr. Leonard Barbian, who became a mentor to them. In recalling their first encounter with Fr. Barbian, they both laughed.
“Fr. Leonard came in wearing a Hawaiian T-shirt, and we knew we wanted to be part of this ministry,” Louise recalled.
Fr. Barbian made clear the need for a more robust marriage preparation program. And after some time of putting on more days for the engaged, they formed a team of married couples and spent a year developing a marriage preparation program with talks. The program was headed by the Catholic Family Life Center on Lloyd Street in Milwaukee. Talks centered on self-awareness, communication, intimacy, and marriage as a sacrament.
“It was our way to enrich our marriage,” said John, explaining that by now Louise was pregnant with their third child.
Days for the engaged turned into overnight weekends that featured four main talks, workshops, a skit, and Mass, held at St. Francis Monastery, Burlington. This was around 1979.
Sharing their experience with others
The weekends and day events continued for several years in parishes and the Archdiocese of Milwaukee, even after their family moved to California in 1991.
Before they left, they became involved in premarital inventory, which they have been doing for more than 30 years in Wisconsin and California. John and Louise met with engaged couples in their home to evaluate the inventories and discuss the results, “using our experience to share with them,” added Louise. Sometimes that experience was their four children running about the house to show couples a healthy glimpse of family life.
It wasn’t until 1997 that they became involved in marriage preparation in their Diocese of Sacramento. The premarital inventories were revamped into the program known as FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding, & Study).
John said, “The first year we had 25 couples come for FOCCUS. We met with the couples three or four times. You do the math. That’s a big time commitment.”
In California John and Louise received the invitation to become involved in National Catholic Engaged Encounter. They set up the first weekend overnight for Engaged Encounter in Sacramento and soon began managing all marriage preparation for their church.
Couple moves back to Wisconsin
When John and Louise returned to Wisconsin in 2008, they began working with Fr. Art Heinze to initiate the upcoming Engaged Encounter weekend in August.
National Catholic Engaged Encounter encompasses the U.S. with local units feeding into districts. It incorporates 15 talks, a Saturday night prayer service and Sunday Mass. The talks, led by two couples and a priest, cover “Who am I, who are we together, and how do we live out our sacrament of marriage as a couple – both to each other and more globally in the community.” Couples come from parishes throughout the diocese to participate in the weekend.
“Christ is the focus of it!” stressed Louise. She explained that in order to benefit from the weekend, couples should come willing to apply themselves and give themselves to each other as a gift.
Louise said, “Couples learn the tools of what it takes. We teach them how to reach out to parents and role models and what they can do in the community, all under a Christ-centered relationship. It’s not just about giving talks but the tools to build their relationship.”
One of the tools they give to couples is a manual called the “Operator’s Guide to Life” with guidelines on just about everything – from planning a relationship to fair fighting.
Couples also get challenged. They are told to avoid co-habitation – and if they are living together prior to marriage to refrain from sexual intimacy.
“Intimacy can be achieved through many ways [besides sex],” said Louise.
One of the talks explores new ways to foster intimacy.
Couples also learn about Natural Family Planning through the witness of a couple that practices it, and they are encouraged to attend NFP sessions in the archdiocese.
By the end, John and Louise see a transformation in couples. Some comment, “We wanted more time to talk or dialogue,” to which John reminds them: “You have the rest of your life.”
John said, “It’s a fairly intense weekend. Hopefully they leave tired.”
“And more deeply in love,” added Louise.
Ministry changed their marriage
As they plan for the commuter weekend this August, they have high hopes for the future. “We’re very committed to this ministry,” said John. “Our goal is to establish National Engaged Encounter in southeastern Wisconsin, establishing a local unit here in Milwaukee.”
The ministry has changed their marriage for the better.
“We’re more in love now than we were 43 years ago, but it’s a different love,” said Louise. “We do this: a) to let engaged couples know what marriage can become, and b) to continue our own relationship.”
John noted, “If we’re fighting, we can’t give talks to couples. It’s brought us closer over the years.”
In answer to their early marriage struggles, the ministry has united them in a single purpose. Gone are the days of focusing on several things apart from each other; now they focus on one ministry together. Commitment to each other has grown into commitment to others. Along the way, they have made best friends with married couples who share their values.
“We do a lot of personal sharing of our own struggles,” said John. “People will come up to us and say, ‘We’ve had the same struggles.’ We welcome couples to contact us for the rest of their lives. It’s a lifelong commitment to these couples.”
While some hire a wedding consultant to plan their wedding day, John and Louise hand out their phone number and e-mail address to couples who attend Engaged Encounter. They are willing to be there for them as a lifetime support.
Fitting into the archdiocese
The Archdiocese of Milwaukee welcomes Catholic Engaged Encounter, even though it is not a substitute for one of the marriage preparation programs offered by the archdiocese.
“When couples ask me why all of this is necessary, I respond that the Catholic Church cares about married couples,” said Jenni Oliva, associate director of the Nazareth Project for Marriage and Family Formation. “The church values marriage to such an extent that we want our engaged couples to be prepared for the life-changing, life-giving, sacramental marriage they are about to enter. That’s why the church puts such an emphasis on marriage preparation.”
In Wisconsin, engaged couples are required to contact their parish at least six months before the intended wedding date. They meet with the pastor, deacon, or pastoral minister of their parish, who will walk with the couple through their journey to marriage.
In that six months or more, they will take a premarital inventory (most parishes use FOCCUS) that explores every aspect of married life and meet two-on-two with a couple at their parish to discuss their responses. They will attend an Archdiocesan Engaged Enrichment Conference or Parish Day that covers topics such as theology of marriage, spirituality of marriage, commitment, communication, Natural Family Planning, conflict resolution, finances, family of origin, and parenting. Couples also receive an engaged blessing and go through liturgical preparation before the rehearsal and ceremony.